We bet you now hate yourself for wanting to grow up faster when you were a teenager! It’s true – adulthood is no picnic and we were delusional for the entirety of our childhood in thinking that it was anything other than that. Stepping out the colorful bubble brings a lot of traumatic (and often hilarious experiences) for many, and these tweets perfectly encapsulate those feelings. Things just got painfully real!
Knowing Your Limits
As kids, we would always have one reason or the other to skip a function, but perhaps the most prominent excuse was, “My mom won’t let me.” There’s no shame in admitting that even as adults, we come up with unique excuses that let us off many social events.
Generally speaking, blaming the fact that you have to wake up early the next day as your reason for not coming is actually the painful truth. Though if it is a white lie that you said in order to have a relaxing day inside, then so be it!
Adhere to the Schedule
Adults don’t have the luxury of sitting back and letting a day slide away. It’s always the job, the commitments, and everything on their schedule that keeps them on the edge of their seats.
Even if no one says it to you, it’s completely fine to not have everything together even when you are an adult. You are allowed to sit in bed in the morning and contemplate all your life decisions, even if one of them is what is making you so tired after just waking up.
Adulting Is Hard
Although it is a hard pill to swallow, we indeed heard it wrong as kids. Being an adult doesn’t mean always having the willpower to seize the day.
Adulthood comes faster than one might think, and before long they are stuck in a vortex of endless bills, accumulating dust on tabletops, and hundreds of unanswered questions about how to “adult” efficiently. A lion’s share of most people’s 30s is waking up in the morning and wondering if they have naturally become weak or whether they have a cold.
Sorry, adults! You cannot eat everything you want anymore. Unfortunately, there is no mom or dad around this time to blame that on. Sure, you will generally have the money to buy McDonald’s or Taco Bell when you cross a shop by a curb, but you will not want to anymore.
Why? When there’s more of your money on the line, you will start reminding yourself that there is, indeed, food at home that needs to be finished. Honestly, that’s the better decision both fiscally and health-wise.
Learning the Ropes
Perhaps you were one of the superior ones. The ones who had a totally clear understanding that they are transitioning into an adult and were having to deal with new and serious responsibilities.
However, for the majority, adulthood always hits them hard. Before long, thoughts like when school is reopening, who is dating whom, are replaced with questions about furniture costs, trash pick-up and household bills. For all those who aren’t there yet, enjoy youth while you can!
Worry for the Youth
Children often idolize their teachers. Given how the education system has glorified teachers over the years, it’s not unnatural for any student to think that their teachers must be the purest and virtuous beings on the planet.
This perception changes drastically when you become an adult and start to take a look around. That is when you realize that the person next to you, despite their profession, is just as messed up as you are. Interestingly enough, some of the wildest teenagers grow up to become teachers.
Just Go Lie Down
Remember the vivacious and energetic you from your teenage years? Do you recall how mad it made you when your parents canceled something because they were too tired? Well, as adults, you will live that life and understand why your parents were always making excuses to lie down.
Sometimes it’s because of that pulled muscle in your back or some inexplicable leg pain that you randomly developed. Then there are times that you just want to lie down because you have no more strength to go on. There’s no shame in that.
Taking it Easy
Getting older isn’t about being productive at all times. This is one of the most toxic myths we were spoon-fed as children. You do not have to be on your feet at all times achieving this or that.
The toll of being an adult takes a lot out of us mentally, and we tend to supplement that by limiting physical movement. You now relate to your parents or older family members who used to make an irritated grunt when they had to move an inch.
Whatever Makes You Happy
In your adult years, you are totally on your own and can get as wild or as mellow as you would like. It isn’t always about looking for big adventures that get the blood flowing. A lot of it is finding what brings you happiness.
It can be the most random of things. For example, a certain TV show to look forward to, or perhaps a particular sport. However, if you’re quite a quirky person, something as small and odd as a certain stovetop burner can bring you all the joy in the world.
Grocery Store Struggles
Unless you’re earning in six figures and saving thousands at that, there is no way a trip to the grocery store will not make you the slightest bit mad. With prices escalating at the drop of a hat, daily commodities are now pricier than ever.
Living is expensive and there is no better reminder of that than going to get your weekly/monthly groceries. You will ask yourself, “What is up with these prices!” way more times than you would like. That’s when you know you’re a full-blown adult.
While your spirit is at an all-time low due to endless duties and responsibilities, your body will start showing symptoms of stress through various pressure points of the body. In simpler terms, when you run the motors inside your head, the body makes it equal by giving you unnecessary pain.
Before long, Advil will be your one true friend. You’ll be so dependent on it that you will want it at home and in your purse like a best friend who can pick you up during your worst hours.
Schools and colleges need to start teaching basic life skills to children. Families and teachers should focus more on letting young adults know how to not set themselves on fire with the most minor tasks.
When you’re not sure about how something works and there isn’t someone to guide you without being snarky, you tend to rely on your impulses. Naturally, it’s a process of trial and error – you keep doing it until someone intervenes and lets you know how to do it the right way.
Just for Emphasis
Emails have become a part and parcel of our lives. It can be a work email or a message you send to your friend. Suddenly, getting the message across is much more important than grammar and punctuation.
Adult email culture is alarmingly dependent on exclamation marks. As you proofread your document, you start getting rid of the extras. You end up asking yourself, “How many exclamation marks is socially acceptable?”
Trauma Inducing Mails
A big part of growing up is growing out of the things that once used to make you happy. It can be your old high school fling who you used to think is super cool back then, or vintage photos with outfits you thought were all the craze.
However, a distressing one is the average adult’s repulsion toward mail. What arrives through mails? Bills, letters, even notices of eviction. Everything to let you know that you messed up passes through your mailbox.
Being Fiscally Responsible
Gone are the days when you could rejoice about getting $20 from your parents. With your mind filled with great ideas of what you could do with that one bill, you would leave the house. Maybe you could return with $5 to spare!
When you’re an adult, $200 is the painful equivalent of $12. Consider yourself lucky if you can save even a single penny from that amount. Having to make smart financial choices isn’t something we were all cut out for.
Why Bother Going Out?
Early in your twenties, having a weekend to spend partying with your friends is what keeps you going through the week. The 30s, however, will change that side of you. Going out all night and partying? Why risk waking up with one of the worst hangovers of your life?
Instead, you could stay at home with a beverage watching movies in your pajamas until you pass out on the couch. Trust us, it feels better than it sounds. Once you’re hooked, night-outs will be a distant dream.
Two More Minutes
This is something we all struggle with from the very start of our lives. The only difference is that back then, it was fighting our parents to let us sleep for another five minutes before we would have to start getting prepared for school.
Now that your parents aren’t there to forcefully drag you out of bed, it’s you versus your alarm as well as the lies you tell yourself. Power naps become the norm because somehow, your body is never fully energized.
Constant Back Pain
Our childhood is a beautiful mosaic of many good and bad memories. The perfect memory differs for all of us, but if there is a common ground, it is that almost all of us miss the time when our back wouldn’t hurt 24/7.
It’s difficult to say whether it’s the weird posture you maintain at work or if your body is simply too old to hold you straight anymore, but the results are annoying, to say the least.
Prioritizing tasks and setting aside time for them ensures productivity and efficiency. Sadly for us, adulthood isn’t the bed of roses we thought it was as children. You find yourself lamenting over minor chores and finishing them is like your challenge of the week.
Doing laundry is a universally hated chore. The washing and drying is the easy part. What takes it to the next level is having to fold and put them away. You’re lying if you say you get that done right away!
Embracing Big Changes
Back in the ‘50s, there was this concept that everyone needs to have their life sorted by the time they are 30. Imagine how draining that was! As times changed, people understood that there is no certain age by which one must know where their life is headed.
Soon, the 30s became the new 20s. Another change followed suit: nine pm is the new midnight. With a list of tasks and errands to do the next day, it’s no wonder that people would rather hit the hay early on.
Age Doesn’t Matter
Kids tend to think that all adults are the same age. No matter whether you are in your 20s, 30s, 40s, or even 80s. To them, you are another adult who has generic hobbies and a list of rules for them. Nature has a way of balancing things out.
So, as an equalizer, all kids are the same age as adults. They can be a child, teenager, or even a young adult. However, to a full-grown adult, they are simply ‘children.’
Era of Online Orders
The generational gap is a wonderful thing. It serves as a reminder that changing ages is a powerful and undeniable force. When we look at the lives of boomers or millennials, it’s rather wild how they seemed to have everything working in their favor by the time they hit the 30-years mark.
A house with a picket fence, children running in the backyard, and a stable job. Gen Z is surely having a more difficult time running the ropes of their lives. Even ordering food upfront gives us anxiety.
It’s About Self Sabotaging
It’s fine to procrastinate. You can live without finishing this job for a day or so. People tend to have different coping mechanisms. In the process of surviving the rat race, we might not notice the toxic behaviors we start displaying.
This behavior does not necessarily have to be aimed at someone else. Occasionally, we self-sabotage. For instance, convincing yourself you will have time in the morning to get gas. The result? Your car will stop in the middle of the road and you will be extremely late.
Googling Numbers Instead
Some teenagers are afraid of confrontation. They may also be scared of talking to strangers. So, the moment an unknown caller rings your family phone, you bring it to the nearest adult. Somehow, you’re sure that they have it under control.
However, what do you do when you’re the only adult available? A great way to avoid spam calls is Googling unknown numbers calling your phone. You can avoid phone call anxiety altogether.
Have you ever been so stressed about being stressed that you forget about what was the cause of your anxiety? Probably one of the weirdest parts about growing up is stressing about overstressing.
When your mind is overburdened by the list of things you have to complete, the rest of the body notices. Unfortunately, the reaction isn’t the best. This is when healthy habits like eating right and exercising come into play to help you out.
Survival of the Fittest
Children have strenuous routines. They have to be up in the morning, do hours of school, finish their homework, and somehow do a sport as well. Knowing someone has your back to take care of other tasks is a huge relief.
That privilege, however, is snatched from us when we become an adult. Unless you are rich enough to afford a helping hand in your house, you have to get everything done yourself. Which means coming back home after your 10-hour shift at the office and doing household chores.
Years in Between
As you age, you will find it extremely funny how the tables turn. When you are younger, you will thrive on the noise, excitement, and adrenaline. However, with age, calmness and tranquility seem more attractive.
Say goodbye to the days when you used to sneak out of your parent’s house to attend a party or meet up with your friends. Adulthood is sneaking out of a party to come back to the comforts of your home. Change is a good thing; accept it.
Where’s the Fun?
One thing that many adults miss about their younger days is having the leverage to not take everything seriously. Bogged down with responsibilities, many adults tend to lose their fun spirit.
If the world of grown-ups is sounding boring to you, that’s because it is. Talking about dinosaurs and action figures is no longer so cool unless you’re with a child. Then it’s like a trip down memory lane. Hence why people have kids!
Too Much Power
With great powers come great responsibilities. While this might seem like a trivial matter to some, it is quite a conundrum for others. As an adult, you have full control over your money. You spent days in your childhood fantasizing about everything unnecessary you would buy when you could afford it yourself.
Sadly, not everyone’s income allows that. Making wise decisions is a part of the game. Just because you can eat everything in the restaurant doesn’t mean you should. This should be reminded to every spiraling adult.
You Understand Your Parents Now
As frustrated as you were with your parents as kids, the perception will change drastically when you are in their shoes. Realizing that your parents had a reason to be the way they were is like a soft blow to the head.
The sheer panic of rushing to the kitchen to take out the chicken your mother asked you to do five hours ago isn’t a memory you can forget. It’s when you start living the life of your mother that your former self will start annoying you.
Little Things of Joy
Not every victory has to be a big one. Similarly, you don’t have to receive joy from the grandest of moves. The stress and demands of being an adult can be overbearing, which makes it even more important to enjoy the small things.
Personal growth is accepting that your life has moved on from rejoicing over big trips and Christmas. Replacing the dirty, beaten-down sponge in the kitchen for a new one? That’s where the goodness lies. Disclaimer: If this applies to you, you’re over 30.
Figuring it Out
Being able to live with responsible parents is a boon. They take over the reins of the house and complete the most important tasks. You might not have been able to understand why your parents would put the same meals on the table five days a row but now you surely will.
Deciding what to have for lunch or dinner is easy for a week or month. When faced with the same question every day for the rest of their life, one would rather starve than answer it.
Learning to Keep Track
Adulting means understanding and respecting responsibilities, no matter how menial they would seem. Filing your taxes, paying the mortgage, house maintenance – these are all heavy tasks. When do you know you are an adult ready to take on this ruthless world?
As hilarious as it would seem, the sign is when you have managed to use a pair of sunglasses for a year without losing them. Exception: Losing your house or car keys does not count and is something you may do until your last breath.
Sky High Prices
Handling finances is amongst the most grueling parts of being an adult. You’re extremely lucky if your parents are paying your college bills, or if you got in through a sizeable scholarship. Not only that, but every part of college requires money.
Nobody will want to pay you now that you’re an adult. Being in a sorority is an expensive affair as well! At the end of it all, you’ll be so tired mentally that a nap will sound like heaven on earth.
Who doesn’t enjoy a good deal? Adults love sales and discounts. The grocery store is your battleground and the task is to leave without going broke and having tears in the corner of your eyes. This is when you need to put your wits to the test.
Found the chicken for 50 cents less? Put the pricier one down – no one will judge you for it. Because almost everyone is doing the same. Cutting corners is a habit as old as time so put your sharp eye to good use!
The Unforgettable Ride
“Adulthood is easy. It’s like riding a bike and the bike is on fire and the ground is on fire and everything’s on fire because you’re in hell.” Totally kidding about that quote! Or are we?
While adulthood is definitely harder than high school, it’s not always so bad. The part that scares people is that you now have a whole different set of expectations to live up to. Not to mention how fast times go by!
How to Set Priorities
Even in your 20s, you may have had the physical and mental strength to stay up the whole night. Being in college is no joyride and all-nighters become a regular deal. The 30s are an entirely different phase. Unless you have to, you may not want to stay awake past nine pm.
There’s nothing wrong with going to bed early. If you can refer to the old as time saying itself, a revamp would be, “Early to bed, early to rise, makes an adult less exhausted and depressed.”
What’s one thing no one tells that about being an adult? You will always have something to do. You don’t know how all these tasks piled up and what you’re going to achieve from them anyway, but there is constantly something running through your mind.
If you’re relaxing, that means you’re ignoring something that is surely much more important then. As your to-do list gets longer, the fear starts to settle in but you will not attempt making it better.
Our Least Favorite Rom-Com
Hollywood lied to us! Being in your 20s or 30s doesn’t mean you will find love outside your door with a bouquet. It certainly doesn’t mean a corner office on Park Avenue where you will cash hundreds of dollars of checks.
Life is an adaptation of a romantic comedy, except without the romance. Even if there is, you get tired. The comedy element is supplied by you as you laugh at your current state. Being able to laugh at yourself is one good thing to learn.
Believe it or Not
If your younger self would hear that one day you would rejoice about buying new towels or a pressure cooker, they would surely be disappointed. After all, this must not have been what you envisioned yourself doing in the future but unfortunately, this is a painful reality.
Adults become entertained by the strangest of things. They aren’t excited by a cheesy, over-the-top teen flick anymore but insurance plans and maps will surely get the gears going.
Digging Into the Pocket
Did you know that having to pay for your own Netflix or Hulu account is enough to decrease the happiness you get from it? Your parents will not pay for your TV bills anymore, naturally. The newfound financial struggle can be rather tough for many.
You go from having a place with free food, shelter, and Wi-Fi to a painfully expensive small apartment where even paying the TV bills sounds like a hassle. Who said adulting was fun? They were playing a cruel joke.
What to Look Forward To
With so many things to do over the week and months, adults need planners for everything. You don’t do it and suddenly you’ve missed eight birthdays and two wedding ceremonies in 10 days. Plus, making and filling planners has a calming effect that almost all of us could use in our hectic schedules.
If you procrastinate a lot, your planner won’t be prepared until the middle of the year. Remember to set aside time for organization and you’ll never miss a thing. Not even the opening of an envelope!
Slow Down There!
Out of the many basic skills adults are forced to learn to survive in the world, many of them require the use of electronic gadgets. These tools don’t come cheap. Many even save up for months or years to get the equipment of their dreams.
You don’t have to purchase everything at once since the monetary burden would be unimaginably high. Buying one at a time is a better idea. But perhaps prioritize the ‘needs’ over the ‘wants’ first, right?
Youth is such an incredible time. Your hormones are all over the place, for once in your life you’re genuinely enthusiastic about waking up the next morning, and your body doesn’t hurt all the time. Seriously, what are we doing so wrong that is making our bodies react like this?
You could fall off a tree as a kid and remain unscathed. Sleep with your neck in the wrong position as an adult and the pain will give you a headache! Congratulations! Your neck is now immobile.
Asking for Help
Has there ever been an instance when you were searching for an adult for assistance and realized that you’re an adult yourself? Even well into our 20s, 30s, or 40s, we all need someone to rely on.
Adults will often be on the hunt for “adulterer” adults to get the job done. It’s rather misfortunate how we went from being babied by our family and teachers to being expected to take control of our surroundings. Perhaps you just aren’t “adult” enough to shoulder those responsibilities!
40+ Brides Share Their Wedding Regrets, and They are Spot On
It takes a lot of planning and decision-making for one to enjoy their wedding day. It is one of the most significant days of their life. Brides often end up having one regret or the other due to circumstances both in and out of their control. Here are some of those regrets that brides express when they look back on that joyous day.
Not Her Dress
The choice of wedding dress is just one of the many decisions a bride has to make. However, it is one of the most important decisions. While the ultimate decision falls on the bride, friends and families like to weigh in and give their opinion.
One bride mentioned that she caved into pressure from friends and family. It turned out to be one of those decisions brides regret. The dress was not her type and she didn’t feel comfortable in it. She realized this on the wedding day. A little bit late, some would say.
Don’t See the Bride
Through different cultures, there are many practices and customs that many follow before, during and after the wedding day. One of such is the idea of the bride and the groom not seeing each other before the ceremony.
One bride recounted how she followed this tradition but later regretted the decision. Why? A wedding day among other things is a day when one might get nervous and be afraid. This bride had such feelings and needed comfort from the man of her heart. However, she could not get it because she didn’t want to see the groom before the wedding.
The Hungry Bride
Nervousness is one of the common feelings that rules the wedding day. Brides often respond to this by keeping their focus on the occasion ahead. Sometimes, this focus style of approach keeps them eating much before the occasion.
This is to remain sharp and avoid sluggishness. Not eating became one of the things brides regret on this occasion. This bride had to go to a nearby dinner to get food just to eat in her hotel. The hilarious part was that she did all this in her wedding dress. Guess the hunger was much.
Practice Makes Perfect
The engagement day gives a preview of how the wedding occasion would look like for the couple. It also serves as an avenue to practice one’s role in front of the camera as this bride later found out.
This bride decided with her groom not to take engagement pictures in a bid to save some money. It turned out to be a regrettable wedding decision. She explained that on the wedding day, she and the groom were so uncomfortable in front of the camera. A situation that the engagement picture day would have addressed.
Take Your Time
Most brides feel excited about tying the knot and can’t wait to get ready for that day. They want to get what they need in time to avoid disappointments and delay. However, this often leads to rush and regrets.
One bride expressed her regret when overexcitement led her to buying things in a rush. She practically picked the first thing she saw that fits. In the end, she settled for a sleeveless dress when she really wanted a long sleeve dress. Settling for the first thing during shopping is one of the decisions brides regret.
Dance Practice Lesson
The wedding day is always fun-filled and packed with activities. One of such activities is the popular couple’s dance. Some couples are natural on the dance floor and it is often a matter of who is better at dancing.
However, for some it takes a lot of practice and choreography before the day, just to put on a decent show. One bride regretted the decision not to take dance lessons before the day. Maybe there was no time for such. On the day, both were awkward on the dancing floor.
The Drunk Maid
Weddings are joyous occasions and with that comes the drink. Sometimes in the course of enjoying oneself, things tend to get a bit out of control.
While a bride was recounting her experience, she said she would have done things differently and would have reduced the number of alcoholic drinks at the wedding party. Her maid of Honor was drunk at the party and had to focus on her through the night. A night meant for her and her husband.
A Second Photographer
The preparations, the dressing, and the grooming are all part of the memories that collectively make the wedding day a special one. Couples often hire photographers to capture this moment.
One photographer captured the bride and the bride’s maids’ preparation and the other at the groom’s side. One bride wished she had hired two photographers. She only hired one for her preparations and therefore, no pictures about the men’s preparation. Something she regrets.
Inviting Certain People
The decision on who to invite to an event as significant as a wedding ceremony is a big one. Couples, considering their style and budget, tend to cut off some names on the list.
However, this bride decided to invite those that did not want to offend. They did that so as not to offend anyone. It turned out to be a regrettable wedding decision for them. This guest came to the wedding and showed the couple why they were reluctant to invite them at first.
It is a kind of unwritten rule or custom to choose white as the wedding dress for a bride. However, you find brides on rare occasions wearing colors that suit them or colors that they feel comfortable in, and it was always nice.
Some brides do cave into the pressure of sticking to tradition. One bride regretted the decision to wear white despite the fact that she didn’t feel comfortable in white. She mentioned that she felt like a giant marshmallow on her day.
A typical example of a decision brides regret is the mistake of rushing into the motions based on excitement. One bride recounted how she and her husband left immediately for their honeymoon a morning after the wedding.
According to her, the rush and excitement moved everything too fast. She did not really feel the experience until a week after the wedding. She said she would have waited a day after the wedding before traveling across the world. Sometimes, it’s just better to take things slow.
Wearing a Veil
Sometimes, sticking to traditions can be a good thing. If something is a cliché, it is so because it works. One bride mentioned that she wanted to remove at least one tradition from the whole process. She recounted that she did this because she was young.
What was her decision? She decided to wear the dress without a veil. But it turned out to be one of the things brides regret. She admitted to how beautiful a veil would have looked on her.
Glasses or Contact Lens
Looking perfect is one of the things that brides set out to be on their wedding day. Some feel they should make some adjustments to their everyday choice of grooming in order to achieve this.
This bride decided to use contact lens on her day, something she had never used before. She regretted the decision because she had a migraine and the lenses were itchy throughout. She mentioned that she should have used her glasses given the fact that her husband loved her in glasses.
Guests Did Not Show Up
Some parts of wedding preparations involve a lot of uncertainty. One example is with invited guests. One can never be too sure if they would all show up or not.
A particular couple had planned the number of meals based on the number of invited guests. That turned out to be a regrettable wedding decision. They had a $60 plate for each invited guest. Many of these guests did not show up so it turned out to be a waste of money.
The Unsupportive Maid
Acting on sentiment and childhood promises is a good thing for many on their wedding day. For others, it’s one of those things brides regret. An example of the latter is that of a bride that chooses her maid of honor based on a promise she made to her childhood friend.
She turned out to be unsupportive throughout the preparations. She didn’t perform her duties as the maid of honor. The bride was better off without a maid of honor at the end of the day.
The Abusive Bridesmaid
The Bridesmaids group is one important piece that completes the puzzle of the wedding ceremony and its preparation. One of the many decisions brides regret is choosing a maid of honor that is abusive and unsupportive.
A bride recounted how her maid of honor picked fights with her before the wedding day, told her she looked fat before walking out for the first dance. She said it was better not to have a bridesmaid. If one must have, they should be people who are truly supportive.
The Inexperienced Photographer
When planning a wedding with a budget in mind, it is important to note the aspect of the wedding that should run at a low cost and those that should not. The pictures taken that day are like memories frozen in time, they need to be perfect.
This bride decided to hire a photographer with a low asking price. She did have an excellent portfolio; however, she did a horrible job according to the bride and the pictures were all bad. The one thing to look back on to remind one of that lovely day.
The Foggy Hair
A bride takes a lot of things into consideration when choosing her favorite hairstyle. Some of these things include the dress style and pattern, the shape of the face, the complexion, and many others.
Apparently, the weather of the day should also be considered. A simple truth discovered by a certain bride that had her wedding on a foggy, cold day. She had a beautiful hairdo that soon became wet minutes after she walked out of her bridal suite. One to consider for future brides.
Doing It Yourself
To be a practical and hardworking bride is a good thing. The quote: “If you want something done right, do it yourself” comes to mind on this occasion. However, it is also important to know when to relax and let others take the wheel of events.
One bride admitted she was able to save up by doing most stuff herself. She, however, regretted the decision to clean up her wedding dress immediately after the occasion when she could be hanging out with her husband.
The Photo Booth Outside
Planning and organization are essential parts of wedding proceedings. One has to make sure that each part of the wedding ceremony, especially the reception, compliments each other.
A bride had stationed the photo booth at another hall outside the reception hall. She mentioned that people were going out of the reception hall to wait in line for the photo booth. That made the reception hall a little bit empty when it was time to dance. If the booth was in the same room, things would have been different.
Cake Face Smash
Weddings themselves are older than many civilizations in the world today. It is, therefore, not a surprise to find many customs and traditions attached to it from different cultures. The main thing is for one to decide whether those traditions are necessary or not.
One should pick those they feel comfortable observing and discard the others. A couple chose to follow the tradition of smashing a cake on each other’s face. The bride later mentioned that she regretted the decision the next morning, even though she laughed about the situation at the time of the wedding.
The Church Organist
Church weddings offer something different and it is quite unique. The melodious hymns, the playing of musical instruments as the bride walks down the aisle. These are events that make this type of wedding special.
This also means a lot of things could go wrong if they are not handled by experts. One example is the organist. A church had an organist that didn’t know how to play some notes. The bride regretted not listening to her before the day.
The Tight Dress
Brides want to look their best on their wedding day and most times, they are stuck between looking fit and looking comfortable. Sometimes, one can have both.
However, opting for the fitted dress does have its disadvantages, or one should say restrictions. A bride chose the fitted dress options and she regretted her decision. She was not able to eat to her fill on the occasion. In her words, she said she just couldn’t fit it in.
Wedding for Others
Weddings for most would want it to be once in a lifetime. This is why that day holds so much importance and significance. To some, this significance often leads one to showing off.
They want to make the day special and show the world just how special it is. Some couples end up making it special for everyone but themselves. This was the notion shared by a bride who said she would have felt better if they did not plan any wedding ceremony. According to her, they should have eloped instead.
Couples-to-be try to follow a number of traditions and unwritten rules before their wedding. While some follow these traditions because they believe in the luck it brings, some follow it just for the fun of it even when they don’t have to.
One bride followed tradition by sleeping in a different bed from her husband’s. This was despite the fact that they’ve been living together for the past three years. This decision made her feel unnecessarily anxious, something that could have been avoided.
The Night Before
For some brides, the night before the wedding is more important than the day itself. It’s the night to make sure everything is in order for the morning to come. Working every little detail to make sure the day is as perfect as one had envisaged.
However, one could easily be overtaken by anxiety and this would disrupt the rhythm and flow of the occasion. Sometimes, it is best to find time to relax that night and just enjoy the emotions as they come. One would end up missing out on a lot of fun like this bride.
The Hairstyle Pressure
Hairstyle is something that adds to one’s beauty tremendously. Over the years, through trial and error, a lady would come to realize and appreciate the hairstyle or group of hairstyles that suits her face the most, the ones she feels comfortable doing.
However, concerned friends and family often have their opinion about how one should look on that day and though they are trying to make one look good, they often get it wrong. This bride caved to the pressure of doing a different hairstyle from her preference. Turned out to be one of those decisions brides regret.
The High Expectations
One of the things brides regret about their wedding is the high expectations placed on the day. They dream about what the day would be like for years, some even before they know the groom.
The mistake most make is that they expect the wedding day to be the best day of their life. Yes, it can be a special day, but most times it’s hardly the best day of one’s life. If the goal is to make it special, that is attainable. If the goal is to make it the best day, it leads to anxiety and regret.
Drinking Too Much
While some couples are filled with anxiety on their day, some are just filled with excitement. Both state of emotion often leads to different result. One example of the latter is overdrinking. A bride shared her experience on how she and her husband drank a little bit too much at the reception.
It turned out to be one of those regrettable wedding decisions for both bride and groom. They both spent the first night as a married couple in the hotel bathroom floor, sharing the toilet.
Too Many Worries
Worrying over one aspect of the wedding ceremony could make focus on that aspect while neglecting the other part of the wedding night. They collectively make the night a special one. The trick is to find a balance.
Something this particular bride failed to achieve. She was worried about enjoying the reception and the dance. On that day, the only thing she could focus on was dancing, she neglected other aspects like talking to invited guests, taking pictures with friends, and other things.
Supporting friends’ businesses is a noble thing to do and most times it is appreciated. However, there is one danger associated with hiring friends in a professional capacity. It is hard to draw the line between friendship and profession.
When they fail to deliver the required services, it becomes difficult to confront such friends. A bride regretted her decision to hire friends as a vendor despite the warnings she received. It led to a distasteful and awkward situation.
The Morning Ceremony
One of the many aspects that needs to be put into consideration when planning the wedding is the time of the occasion. The time of the occasion is equally important. Not too early, so that preparations won’t be rushed through.
Not too late so that the ceremony won’t be rushed through. The latter situation was the mistake a bride made in preparing for her wedding day. The time was a bit late and they had to rush through some of the proceedings at the end of day. One such included the photo session. The result wasn’t great.
Too Much Focus on Guests
It takes skill and a bit of luck to find one’s balance on the wedding day. Most times, couples concentrate on one aspect and neglect the other.
In the end, it leaves the couple with a feeling of regret. They wished they had done things differently if given the chance. A bride narrated how she spent so much time with the guests at the reception instead of enjoying her moment with her husband.
The Little Things
Worrying about the little things can prevent one from seeing and enjoying the bigger picture. The worst part is that there would always be “little things” to worry about.
One just has to relax and understand the fact that the day might not turn out to be the best. however, it would always be special. One regret this bride has was her constant worry over the little things a night before her wedding day. Looking back at the day, she felt if she had relaxed, she would have enjoyed the day better.
Getting a Videographer
Getting a photographer to capture the moments in pictures is a common concept in many weddings. However, it is not uncommon to hear of couples hiring a videographer to record the important moment of the occasion.
One can always go back and watch the clips while reminiscing on the event. The decision not to hire a videographer turned out to be a regrettable wedding decision for a particular bride. Moments she would have loved to cherish forever. One of such included the speech by her friend.
Planning the Wedding
Planning an occasion is never an easy task, it takes a level of expertise and resilience. Some couples give out the responsibilities to professionals while others prefer a “do it yourself” approach.
The latter group wants the wedding ceremony to be just how they want it and that is understandable. The problem associated with this, especially for brides, is the anxiety that follows. Many brides have regretted the decision and the fact that they were anxious over the little details.
Drinking with the Girls
It is nice to relax and merry before the ceremony. It sets one in a mood for enjoyment and fun. However, caution is needed and one has to go about their business moderately. It could turn out to be a decision one regrets if things should get out of hand.
One bride narrates her experience on how she had a little too much to drink while she was getting ready with the girls. She was drunk through most parts of the wedding and she hardly remembers the day.
Acknowledging the Parents
For many couples, parents have formed the backbone of their growth, for both bride and groom. Their contribution to the success of the occasion is something noteworthy. Some couples, in return, take a moment during the occasion to celebrate their parents.
It could be a moment of toasts to the parent or any other form of acknowledgment. Not doing this was the major regret felt by a bride after her wedding ceremony. She felt she could have appreciated her parents on that joyous day.
Leaving for Honeymoon
There are a lot of activities before, during, and after the wedding day. It is important to relax and be patient through the process of enjoying these activities. One could get tired if too much is done in too little time.
One of the many decisions brides regret over time. For example, this bride and her groom left early in the morning for Costa Rica on honeymoon. The wedding ceremony ended around 3am in the morning, just four hours before the trip. The whole day was spent hungover.
The Invitation Dilemma
So as not to offend others, some couples have the habit of inviting everybody and anybody to their joyous occasion. Some couples do not mind the crowd and they still enjoy their day regardless. For others, it turns out to be one of those regrettable decisions.
An example is that of a bride that invited those she was not close to. She didn’t enjoy the decision and felt the day would have been better spent with actual friends and her husband.
Spending Time with Friends
While some brides regretted spending too much time with friends, others regretted the opposite. This is due to the number of activities packed for that day. An example is the bride that recalled that her night was full of activities and she barely had time for herself and her friends.
Pulled away for pictures, after that, for the dance. Without a moment’s rest, pulled away again to toss the bouquet and many other activities. She did enjoy her day but felt it could be better.
Anger before Wedding
A lot of things could disrupt one’s plan for the big day. Some of those things are out of one’s control. The need to have a perfect wedding often leads to undesired emotions on that day. A bride was left angry when it started raining on the morning of her wedding.
If she had gone with the flow, focused on her joy and not the idea of perfection, maybe she would have enjoyed the moment a bit better. The sky cleared up before the event, but the effect of the anger on her mood did not. Something she regrets years after that day.
Practicing with the Veil
Sometimes it is better to test and have a look at all the parts of the wedding dress. Sort out the parts that need adjustment, remove the parts that would not be needed. One piece of the wedding gown that seems insignificant is the veil that covers the eye.
Some brides decide before the day to try it out, some do not. One could regret the latter option in rare cases. The veil was itchy and uncomfortable for this bride and she had to tear it out during the event.
Looking Good, Feeling Good
It is important to look the best on the wedding day. It gives confidence and a sense of self-worth that one carries throughout the day. In terms of getting the best look, trying out different options before deciding is not such a bad idea.
The excitement, most times, leads one to make hasty decisions. Decisions like settling down for the first makeup artist one comes across. A bride regretted this decision and mentioned that her makeup could have been better if she was patient.
Worrying about Others
Trying to make the night perfect is one thing. Trying to make it perfect for everyone but yourself is another. A bride felt that her major regret of the day was that she focused too much on the care and welfare of others.
She spent much time worrying about others, the one person she did not take care of was herself. She felt she would have had a better wedding experience with her husband if she had focused on herself and her husband.